Hi dear friends,
I’ve seen good resolutions or 2019 goal posts everywhere! Of course the new year comes with good resolutions every year
BUT
are good resolutions taken on New Year’s Eve really a good idea?
I will give you three reasons why it may not be so clever to make them on December 31st/January 1st
1) Chances are high that when you make them during your crazy night celebrating the new year you are as drunk as skunk!
Not the best idea as you will either make completely crazy/impossible/outrageous good resolutions (like telling your hot married boss that you are in lust with him and of course you will immediately message him, why not right?) either you won’t remember your good resolutions the day after (you are nursing a freaking hangover with a flock of wild loud birds who decided to nest under your scalp).
Why bother then right?
2) The year is so young you will put a huge and unnecessary pressure on your shoulders!
There is so much time to fail following your good resolutions! Why not wait the last quarter of the year and unders stress you will feel urged to accomplishe what you decided!
You know like meeting that deadline at work: you work better and with greater efficiency under pressure than beginning your task months ahead (then you begin and forget because you have other priorities and .. you rush by the end so it’s bad quality!).
3) In a world of copycats be an original!
Everyone makes good resolutions on January 1st! It is so “has been”! Try to go for February. Valentine’s day maybe? Or Easter with all the eggs? Or when on holiday in Summer? I don’t know but be strong, be different! Don’t be a sheep!
Now that I gave you these reasons not to make them on January 1st ….
Let’s get to my 2019 goals (yes yes the dreaded date is already behind us!)
Because yes I confess having goals is part of what makes us grow and walk further down the path. Become better a 2.0 version of ourself.
My 2019 goals are simple.
In my private life and in life in general I want to enjoy the moment. Be in the moment.
If life taught me something in 2018 it’s that life is unpredictable. You can’t control everything and you have to come to terms with this.
For someone like me, used to plan everything, be hyper organized and used to control so many aspects of my life it will be a huge challenge!
But I feel the need to let lose. Because right now I have many headaches and my intestines think they are on a 101 Mambo danse lesson every day! Not so good.
If you have any suggestions to reach that goal they are welcome!
In my blogger and reader’s life
I want to tone down on the ARCs. I have many coming in January but after that date I want to really accept only two to three ARCs max per month if that. I need to read all the books on my shelves or at least make a dent in my TBR. I also have many books coming in 2019 that I want to read. I want to get back to enjoy reading without the pressure of a schedule. Just the story and me.
As I mentioned enjoying the moment here above I will also probably write more reviews and less meme or tags. Or rather if I feel stressed, tired and under pressure I won’t add more on my plate. I will try not to feel guilty for not doing a meme one week. It’s that or burning out and as I plan on blogging for many more years I choose following my instincts and lsitening to my body.
I woudl like going back to discussion posts and interviews but it will depend on my health and energy. Because my dad’s death took its toll on me and I feel the shock now….
Let’s not forget that I will look into other themes but I don’t know yet if I will make a change or not.
Now let’s talk about your goals! Do you have some for 2019?
Thanks for reading!
Sophie
Great post, and I love your thoughts Sohpie! I have only a few general resolutions that I would like to work on this year, but like you don’t want to put crazy pressure on myself. Toward the end of last year, I just burnt out. I got to where I didn’t enjoy reading, because I didn’t want to write reviews. WTF??? Anyway, I quit taking in ARC’s and just read, read, read. Embarrassingly, I only starred many of my reads in December for the most part unless it was an awesome book. I know, totally shameful, but I just had no words. Anyway, I think I’m refreshed now and hoping to get back to my old self – lol! Cheers to a FUN and successful year you as well!
I really agree with you. Baby steps are the best!
I have started this year by making weekly goals so far so that I can achieve my smol goals first!
Love it 🙂 And totally agree!
While setting goals are important, they don’t have to be set on the same day. It’s also important to enjoy the moment, and enjoy the journey toward your goals 🙂
Thank you Norrie! We must not forget the journey indeed 😉
Love your goals for this year! Living in the moment is so important and definitely something I want to do more of this year.
Blog and reading wise I have set some goals for myself this year and personally as well. I’m still working on my article on those goals but I’m quite enthusiastic about them.
I have just seen your article Melissa and you are ambitious! All the luck with your goals 😉
I love that goal Sophie. I know you’ll succeed this year! I stole my goal phrase from Disney.. “Just keep swimming!” I can’t give up or give in, I’ve just gotta keep my head up and keep moving!
I have seen your goal Trisy and if I understand completemy it pains me at the same time that you have to go through this.
Be in the moment.
Such an amazing goal and one we should all strive for! Everyone always gets so caught up in life and our to do lists and what is coming next that stopping and enjoying what is happening now doesn’t happen often enough.
Exactly Janine and I want to change 😉
I make New Year’s goals, but most of them are low-pressure. I don’t get too upset if I don’t achieve them. Good luck with your goals!
Thanks AJ!
I totally agree! That’s why I have quarterly goals. I do a big planning at the beginning of the year but then set up quarterly goals. I have the same ARC goals. No more than three a month! I may even take it down to one at least for the first quarter until I catch up q=with all pending ARCs. And “Be in the moment.” is the best goals anyone can have. Good luck Sophie!!
Thank you Daniela and ..you too! 😉
Best of luck for all of your goals, Sophie, these are great and it’s so important to be in the moment, too, I know I also tend to overthink and not enjoy the moment too much.
I hope you’ll be able to write more discussions, I always love these kind of posts 🙂
Have a wonderful January and a very happy new year, Sophie! <3
Thank you Marie you too!
Hi. Happy New Year! I didn’t make any formal resolutions this year except to make better decisions. I think maybe it could apply for you, too. It sounds like you have all the right ideas in your head. Not sure what’s causing the headaches and intestinal stuff, but ultimately… stress is the biggest culprit. And lack of enough water… reading is supposed to be fun and never a chore. It got to the point last year I read so many ARCs that I didn’t care about the book or author anymore, just getting something off my queue. I backed away for late 2018 and it feels much better. I can read at my own schedule and enjoy it much more. 🙂 Big hugs.
Thank you Jay! And I visited the doctor today and yes stress is what he told me too …
You make some great suggestions here! I definitely wait a bit before making my goals. I had a good laugh with your first point. lol 🙂
Hahaha happy to make you laugh 😉
I too would like to do more discussions and interviews. I really enjoy those types of posts, on my own blog and on others’! I hope you accomplish your goals 🙂
Thank you Kristen and fingers crossed for your goals too!
Well said, Sophie! <3 One of my goals this year is to read more backlist titles. I feel like I missed a lot of great books by focusing too much on new releases. Good luck on your reading goals!
Thank you Bea and good luck to you too!
Less stress is always a goal for me, especially when it comes to blogging. I want to enjoy my time here. Wishing you lot of luck with your personal and blogging goals!
Thank you Alicia!
I made my goals back in mid-December, so I totally saved myself from being a copycat or making last ditch efforts at a crazy amazing goal to be remembered *thank goodness*!!
ENJOY THE MOMENT, that is the perfect goal. I want that for you Sophie! If the moment brings you discussion posts, may it be so! If it brings you a little more ARCs than expected (but one happens to be your top fave of the year) well there you go. 🙂
Happy New Year’s! 🙂
Hahaha I knew you were no copycat Sha LOL And thank you!
My goal centers around my personal life. I want to start each day positive and work on helping my family. I should also make it about my work and blogging. Never thought of that.
These are good resolutions Laura!
My goals are pretty random. My main goal is to spend more time with my daughter, even though she doesn’t want to spend time with me (13). I promised myself I wouldn’t be a zealot about the blog. I still haven’t. I won’t because I just can’t take the stress.
Anyway, about the headaches and intestine issues, I would recommend more Water in your diet. That is what helped me. I have been plagued for years with so many things that I look for at home remedies all the time.
Read for the love of it, I do. If you can’t make a deadline, know it’s not the end of the world.
Oh I know 13 and being a girl! I have it with my own daughter! She does not know me when she walks with her friends in town LOL Thanks for the advice about water I will try it!
I always want the same things, and fail to achieve those things every year. So, you know, resolutions don’t really work for me, but I love that you want to live in the moment more. That’s a great goal.
Hahaha same here Sam!
Living in the moment is a great goal! Good luck and I hope you have a wonderful 2019 <3
Thank you Brittany!
Good luck with your goals for 2019! I haven’t written down anything specific, but I like to make a general plan and review at a few points throughout the year. I also like to plan everything and can find it stressful when life invariably throws a spanner in the works 🙂
Well it’s wise Christina making a general plan to have directino. Probably less stresful!
My goals are simple for this year, read more, be in the moment more, and don’t stress anything. ☺️
Well we are in sync Alexandra!